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2005-11-24 - 8:51 AM its cold here today.. sunny.. but im inside with my beloved tatty green sweater on and some soft black stirrup pants. fawn is always telling me i need a makeover. im all about comfort anything soft and silky. im just not a style goddess.. there will be no football or sports of any kind watched. there will be some parade watching this morning and after cooking and eating... there will be game playing.. or puzzle working its odd how things change after a partner passes. this is the third holiday season without him. the past few days ive caught fawn watching old family movies. i could hear her dads voice occasionally waft through the house. sometimes it would make me stop in whatever i was doing and get misty. i kept checking on her to see if she was crying...but she was just smiling and i guess remembering. so i let her. she asked me to come watch with her and i just told her i couldn't.. i knew if i sat there i would just fall into that dark place again. i don't want to right now. things do change... the motivation for doing things is different. cooking holiday dinners is about what fawn loves and not about what he loves anymore. there is no sound of football or someone coming to hug you from behind asking when its going to be done. or sneaking into the fudge i made just for him without nuts. time does not heal all wounds. it feels like to me that the pain is still there just under the surface waiting for some memory to yank it up. i think we just get used to the pain being there and it colors everything we do. well wishing all you warm and wonderful souls here happy thanksgiving. � � ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ HELP SUPPORT US thank you for being our angels. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ |